my efforts
El Capitan is seeking stalker advice on how to find the best way to let someone he has met informally that he would like to go beyond chatting about things.
This is what I did when faced with a similar problem around 14 years ago.
I was employed, just like the Capitan , by the man and our offices would soon by classified as non smoking, so the city said that they would pay for a smoking cessation program provided by a local hospital. Having been a smoker for a gazillion years I knew I would need all the help I could get. So a bunch of us signed up and away we went on a monday evening to be reprogrammed.
The meeting room had around 8 tables, about 8 ft long, which would seat 4 people to one side facing the front of the room, so we had almost 30 or so people there for the classes. When entering we moved to the back table and proceeded to settle in and moving the hand outs around so we could follow along.
Now is when my story begins, there was only one vacant chair left and it just happened to be next to me, just as the instructor was starting with her opening comments here she came into the room glancing for an open chair. As she sat down next to me I said “hi, how ya doing” and she said “fine”, I was mesmerized and could not help but keep glancing at her during the 2 hour session. During the 1st class we kinda opened up and started zinging each other with some stupid jokes and other useless crap. The first evening ended and away we went until next monday.
During the remaining 4 monday sessions we interacted more and more and on a few occasions, the instructor said if we didn’t be quiet she would separate us. One of the things she hit me with was “The Rules“, which said how the women made the rules etc. Our interaction continued until the end of the class and we each went on our own way, but I had this urge to get to know her better and wondered how I would go about contacting her.
After pondering ways to find out who she was I finally humbled my self and went to my fried in HR who set up the program with the hospital and I knew she would have inside info. After a few days my friend said she had the info I wanted, and now I had her last name and I knew where she worked.
Now I had to decide on how to let her know that I was interested in getting to know her, after a couple of days I decided that a combo of humor and a little seriousness thrown in si I did not look like some pervert.
So using the list from “The Rules” , I fashioned a response to each one which showed I was willing to kinda honer them. After about 3 pages of stuff, I had enough to either succeed or fail miserably. The last thing I did was to enclose a self addressed envelope the was to be used to send back one of two options, which one was a flat out “No Thanks” and the other was “Ok, lets see what happens” that had her phone number for me to call at the date and time she specified.
So I crammed my efforts in an envelope and made a trip to the post office to send it on it’s way , which begin the period of nervous anticipation of a reply that hopefully was positive.
Now I went into my mode of a kid who can’t wait for Christmas to see what he got, I’ll tell you it was not that enjoyable as there were more ups and down than the stock market in ‘29.
After 2 weeks on no reply I went into the depression mode of “I am a failure” which continued for around another 10 day and then lo and behold there was my self addressed envelope in the mail
box one friday afternoon. I was elated to find inside the “Ok, lets see what happens” response stating to call her on monday after 7:00 pm.
When the time to call I was kinda nervous as anyone would be, so I dialed her number and when she answered, I said “HI this is myname” and she replied “who?, the after she realized who I was we both started laughing non stop for about 5 minutes. We chatted for a long time and decided I should meet her along with a bunch of people from her office at their friday “happy hour”. So off on friday away I went not knowing if I was going to be presented as the fool who sent stupid pickup lines thru the mail or as someone she wanted her co-workers to meet.
To make a long story short she turned out to be the sister of Alex Forrest.
Any way thats what I did to meet someone..
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Well now, was she more fond of rabbits, or cats? You can really tell that in a woman, yanno.
